What you still can't say on Twitter

Suspended for 12 hours

So right now I am unable to tweet, like or retweet as I am sitting out a 12 hour suspension for “hateful conduct”. Was I hateful? I’ll let you decide.

The conversation arose because someone said, as many do, that in the case of intractable gender dysphoria - the best option is for some gay men to “transition” to a “woman”. In the past I agreed with this, and it formed a large part of my beliefs around gender dysphoria and the medical treatment of a condition that is in it’s own name talking about distress.

So why am I suspended? Well, because someone reported me, obviously! For this:

The full mini thread I made is here:

“The only option for some gay men is to sterilise them, castrate them and pretend they are women... for their own good? Trying to alleviate Dysphoria I understand, but pretending the dysphoria is in fact right and some gay men are better off as pretend women I never will.

Dysphoria in gay men has one of two core origins. 1- sexual narcissism where the gay guy thinks gay men are inferior and desires a straight guy. They are not uncommon. Leaving those aside the other is 2- gay men told they are "too feminine" to be a man.

If you tell these men that yes, they are in fact too feminine to be men, operate on them and pretend they are a kind of woman or non man, then this puts "gender pressure" on the "next most" "feminine" gay men, and inputs directly into the already existing issues we have.

And then we are back to the suspicion that gay men aren't really men, or that we have to avoid being perceived as "feminine" because people will wonder if we are possibly "trans”. We really need to tackle this myth that the "only" option is dramatic surgery and a woman disguise.

I would also like people to reflect on why they "take pity" (examine that please) on gay men who desire to be women but do not treat straight men who are unhappy they aren't lesbians 6g the same. Why do people seem to think distress at being gay = sometimes conversion is ok?

And yes I used to think that. I used to think that some gay men - men like me - are "better off" as "honorary women" because society isn't tolerant of men that are "too gay". I now understand why I was doing that but it's still makes me feel shame for doing that.”

Yes I could appeal, but I am going to delete this “offending” tweet and instead write up what I think here. I mean what I said, and while this may be challenging to some people to hear, no men are “really women” and humans can’t change sex. All “transition” does is create a resemblance to the other sex, and avoids tackling the sexism and homophobia that leads many young gay men to buy into the belief that they “should” be women.

In the end, I am suspended from tweeting for 12 hours, because I was trying to defend the interests and well being of gay men, men like me.